Not Being Annoyed is a Splendid Art

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There is an ancient well kept secret to contentment which the wise ones have known for ages. They rarely talk about it but they apply it all the time. Also, it is necessary to good mental fitness. This secret is called “The skill of not being annoyed”.

Most of the people in this world say and do what they do from their own deposit of distress, conclusions, defenses and endeavor to sustain themselves. Even when they point directly at us, it has nothing to do with us. Generally, it stems out of a bad experience from their past, mostly their childhood. To master this skill, one must be capable to notice that every statement and reaction of other human beings is a result of the culmination of their life experiences to date.

Nothing is personal even with our loved ones- partners, friends and children. We all are swimming in the pool of each other’s life experiences. We all are the pieces of a puzzle, to which our closed ones have their own built-in solution. This is not to take away the love and bond from our relationships but for us to know that every time we get annoyed, we are just in a misunderstanding.

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The actual realization of this idea allows for more love and intimacy and less suffering in all relationships. This will detach us from the reactions of people surrounding us. How frequently do we respond to an action or a statement of another person by being offended rather than realizing that the other person might actually be hurting? In fact, every time we get irritated, it is truly a moment to show kindness to the one who may be suffering.

All the anger, reactions, rudeness and criticism are forms of suffering. When we provide no space for it to stay, something changes in the world. We do not have to be a healer or doctor to someone. We only need to understand the situation and move on. By doing this, at least we ourselves experience less suffering and at best we can make world a better place to live.

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But this is also not be confused with allowing ourselves to be neglected or taken advantage of. When we know nothing is personal we never get offended by any action or statement. After that, these so called abusers start to leave our lives. These abuses only happen if we believe what the other is saying. We are not hooked by what others do and say since we know it has nothing to do with us. Our worth is not examined by what another says, does or believes. And if essential, we can just walk away without creating more hardship for ourselves.

Nowadays, the great challenge is to live a life full of happiness regardless of what other people believe or do. Though this art demands practice, it is truly one of the secrets to live a happy life.

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For deep study of this art you can read “Avoiding the Trap of Being Offended” by Kenneth W Hagin or “How to Be a Mystic in a Traffic Jam” by Dr. Jedi Prinzivali.

-Randeep Kaur Dhillon

Edited by Mrinaal Datt

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