Recently, I have been spending a lot of time on Facebook. So I have had the opportunity to look at people’s updates and shares regarding a lot of stuff. Yes, including that 4 letter word- LOVE. Too much of heartbreak and cynicism.
People who love to paint love as some kind of “pain” or a “challenge”. Why? Is love not the most primal and the most basic of all emotions? When did “loving” someone become so hard? Is it because you two belong to two different worlds? Or because you are waiting for the “right one” to come along because everybody else doesn’t match up to it? Because you are “saving” yourself for them?
That, to me, sounds really absurd. We were all made alike. Sure, our compatibility differs person to person. But if you think you are not good enough or not pretty enough or smart enough or whatever enough for the next person- well, you never will be.
They say in every relationship there is a reacher and a settler (you might know that in case you’ve watched HIMYM). Reacher is the person in a relationship who is involved with someone out of his or her league, while, Settler is someone who settles for it.
But it’s real world not a TV series! And you know what happens in real world?
A settler falls for a reacher and gets rejected! It happens with most of the people around us, and our friends are like “Oh! Leave him/ her you deserve much better than them” or “You are too smart/ beautiful for them”.
But no don’t listen to them, they are wrong!
Don’t give up so soon. Just give it another try. Probably that person is not as strong as you. He/ She is afraid what people would say about both of you together. He/ She is worried about how they would adjust in your friend circle.
That girl is thinking “His female friends are so much prettier than me. How can I even compete with that?” And that boy is wondering “His male friends are way more handsome than me. I would be made fun of in front of them”.
They don’t want to be an embarrassment for you. You just need to make them realise that you love them for their big heart and pure soul You love them for their internal beauty. You love them for what they are!
And buddy one day you’ll definitely get a yes! Just keep trying don’t give up!
A lot of times we end up giving on love, or not giving it a chance in the first place because we think about what others will think. But does it even really matter? Is it not your life? If you want to share your life or some part of it with someone else, should it not be your decision? Or should you keep thinking about what “log kya kahenge”? God knows that that thought has ruined more dreams, lives than the words “I hate you”.
Your life is a culmination of your experiences- good and bad. Don’t let anyone dictate those terms, take control, be stupid, fall in love, get your heart broken and then get it mended. Because no one else can do that for you!
-Muskan Narang and Mrinaal Datt.
Read more about them here.
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