Every one of us has heard this- Life is beautiful. But we only stick to the word beautiful and forget that all beautiful things come with thorns. Every rose has its thorns, right? And those can hurt badly if not handled with care. Same is the case with life, if one does not handle things happening in his life properly then it is a big problem.
In the journey of life we face many problems and we see people changing colors more frequently than a chameleon. The result? We tend to keep overthinking these things for a very long time. But sometimes we should not keep a hold of things, instead we should simply let go. Life is small too hold grudges.
To be specific, letting go does not mean that you don’t care about someone or something anymore. It’s just realising that the only thing you truly have control over is yourself- right here, right now. It’s a necessary process of adapting to the ever-changing realities of life – leaving behind the past to make way for the present and the future.
Sometimes keeping a hold on things pushes you backwards and you are not able to push yourself forward. Just because of all this, sometimes, you are not able to achieve few things that you are capable of achieving. All because you are keeping a hold on things that are not important for you anymore and overthinking. Sometimes, we even use the past to justify our current decision-making and that’s the reason we don’t want to let go.
Remember that nasty thing someone did to you years ago? That affects whether or not you go to that family gathering, or, if you will ever date again. Those memories are a way for you to justify everything. So, when you’re unable to let go that becomes a part of your “story” and works against you — holding you back.
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength.However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
Letting go is an art that we need to learn. It is an invitation to relinquish unhealthy attachments to events, ideas, possessions, and minor irritations. To ‘let go’ also means to give up resisting and struggling to hold on to meaningless issues in exchange for powerful and wholesome moments that come our way by allowing and accepting unchangeable realities that come by in our daily lives. Accept ‘what is’, and let go of what was!
As we become mature and grow wiser, we realize what we need to hold on to and that which we need to leave behind. Walking away from certain situations and painful memories is a step forward. There is so much to be achieved in the short span of our lives, there are so many opportunities we can avail according to our individual capabilities, and this is not possible if we remain paralyzed by all those things we are supposed to let go-Sometimes there are things in our lives that aren’t meant to stay.
Sometimes the changes we don’t want are the changes we need, to flourish and grow. Personal growth and change can be uncomfortable sometimes, but nothing in life is as painful as staying stuck where you don’t belong. The hardest part about growing is letting go and moving away from our comfort zones and moving on with something untried and new. True and valuable wisdom lies in accepting what is, letting go of what was and having faith in what could be.
It is very easy to say that let go the things but actually it is very difficult to leave few things behind no matter how much painful it might be. But once we let go these things we feel free from the emotional shackles that were holding us back and we realize very soon it was the best decision we ever made. It definitely takes time to recover but once we understand then we are an unstoppable force.
Growth and change may be painful sometimes, but nothing in life is as painful as staying stuck where you don’t belong.
Letting go is hard as I earlier said but it is not as hard as it may seem. Bad things happen, sure, but you cannot change the past, so why continue to perpetuate it? To let go, you have face what has happened, accept that you can’t change it and then move on. Once you’re able to move on and close old doors, inevitably new doors will open up, better opportunities will arise, and, most of all, you’ll have a better story that moves you forward, instead of holding you back.
In life we our generally afraid of the changes that happen but we should not be afraid of the changes. Changes happen for a reason. Roll with it. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.
Humans are forever evolving and growing life and its experiences don’t wait for us to come around to accept them, whether we are absent or present, life goes on with its rewarding moments for those who find the courage to let go of what they could not change or alter.
When we stop expecting life to be perfect, for people to be the best they can be, we are no longer holding ourselves down with things that are out of our control, we have grown and matured enough to appreciate both life and the people in our lives for what and who they are.
One should stop focusing on that how unlucky he is and remind himself about how blessed he is, there is always that one other person or many other people who have it so much worse.
In Sanskrit it is well written that “Yesterday is already a dream, and tomorrow is only a vision, but today, well-lived, makes every yesterday a dream of happiness, and every tomorrow a vision of hope. Look well, therefore to this day! Such is the salutation of the dawn”
I would like to end this by simply reminding you that:
“If we can’t get out of the story we’ve constructed for ourselves, Then we cannot move on toward bigger and brighter things.”
Edited by Mrinaal Datt
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